I got back with my Christian boyfriend after breaking up with him but that off feeling I got is still there. I am not sure if this is going to work. I keep telling myself it's going to get better but it's not. Advice Please?

So I've been with my boyfriend for a couple months but as I started getting to know him he starts acting childish and he's very clingy. We are long distance he is from Portland and I am from Georgia. We are both Christians. He starts saying things like oh man when I want to spend time with my family and wants me to talk on the phone every day a couple of hours a day. I just got this weird feeling that he is not the person for me and it's as if he can never get enough attention and he constantly wants my input on things such as what he wears when I want him to figure that out on his own. He is not assertive and he also tells me not to get a job and I asked him why and he said it's for my safety because I was on medical leave for health reasons but now I feel ready to go back to work. He said it would stress him out if I got a job again. I tried talking to him about how I'm feeling and for a while things did change but then he went back to being clingy and needy again. He made me feel guilty for breaking up with him and the feelings of breaking up was overwhelming so we got back together. But I need someone more assertive and quite frankly someone that is close by to me. We have a 5 our difference and I tell him not to call me at 2:00 a.m in the morning my time but then he says but I need you and he relies on hearing my voice to sleep. I like him but I am concerned about how we would work out long-term. I feel like if I break up with him again I might need to just say what I need to say and block him. I tell myself that I am overreacting but this feeling of feeling like it's not working it's just increasing. It feels like I'm the parent and he's the child and at times it feels like I'm talking to a brick wall. He doesn't really talk about much about God and the Bible and if he does it's only a little bit. For some reason I'm feeling like he's pulling me away from God and I've been experiencing more depression and anxiety since getting back with him. I got tired of not meeting men in my city or at least in my state so I decided to go long distance but it feels like things are even more of a train wreck. I am at a Crossroads again and I really do like him but I see a lot of these things as concerns and red flags. I feel smothered and overwhelmed. He constantly needs reassurance and it's fine with some reassurance but it's like in everything. Is God telling me that he is not the one or am I'm overreacting? Should I try harder to make it work? I need advice and I am wondering what do I do?