male partners have issues with my orgasm

Idk if this is a dude thing or a me thing, but I've slept with multiple men who have made it clear that they don't like the way I orgasm. This is apart from the more "ordinary" stuff like just not caring if I had one, or pouting if I didn't because it hurt their ego. I guess I'm too loud and intense about it? Two have flat out said it scared them. A few more laughed at me. It's hard for me to get there with a partner in the first place so when it does happen it's real strong.

To me this is crazy because if someone cums in front of me, I consider it an honor and I'm not gonna critique how they do it. It's an incredibly intimate moment. But the only common denominator here is me, soooo...maybe I am too intense?? Has anyone else encountered this??? Honestly between that and some Very Bad Stuff that has happened to me, I'm hesitant to have sex at all, even with myself.

ETA please don't PM me and ask for specifics or brag about your sexual prowess ya weirdos