Boyfriend who isn’t meeting my needs wants me to meet his family

I (F26) have been dating this guy (M31) for about six months. He’s intelligent, responsible, and kind. In the beginning, things were great—he’d text me, flirt with me, tell me about his day. We went on dates, he initiated intimacy, all was well.

But in the fall, he went back to school while working full time, and things changed. I understand he’s busy, but now I hardly hear from him. He calls me, but only a few times a week on his commute home. I see him on Sundays, and I’ll get a text from him every 6-12 hours (but usually it’s just his wordle score). A few weeks ago I was really upset over a family issue, and the next day he didn’t ask how I was feeling until 6:30 PM, yet he was able to send me his wordle in the morning. A quick “how are you feeling” would’ve been enough.

He doesn’t initiate intimacy anymore and hasn’t followed through on the small things I asked for, like occasional body-doubling video calls or a morning message on days we plan to hang out. He essentially told me these requests don’t make sense to him. I swear he hugs his friends with more enthusiasm than he hugs me.

So I’m thinking surely he doesn’t like me, but today, when he asked if I’d meet his family for Christmas Eve, I said no, and he was shocked and upset. Why would he be shocked and upset when he doesn’t really seem to like me all that much? What could he be getting from a relationship with someone he barely talks to?

I’m hanging onto this relationship, because In the beginning, things were going so well that I was absolutely certain I’d found the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I’m waiting to see if things could return to that, but it seems he’s lost interest in me.